In my favorite movie, The Matrix, there’s a scene where Neo is speaking with a young boy who is bending spoons. The boy is spending little to no effort bending the spoon and twisting it all with his mind. Neo sits down beside the boy in awe and asks how he’s doing it.
Boy: Do not try and bend the spoon. That’s impossible. Instead only try to realize the truth.
Neo: What truth?
Boy: There is no spoon.
Neo: There is no spoon?
Boy: Then you’ll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself.
The more I read and practice mindfulness, the power of positive thinking, and other mind hacks I realize how truly deep this passage is. “There is no spoon” while simple has some layers that I have found to be both freeing and damning all at the same time.
If perception really creates reality, then we are “the one” in our own personal realities with abilities to truly bend The Matrix around us too. “There is no spoon” taps into this belief. Many times we limit our perception by trying to physically shape the world around us, making us tired and worn out in the process when we should instead realize that it is our minds that shape our realities.
Have you ever walked into a room with a group of friends and noticed something they didn’t? You all are walking into the same room with the same items in it, so how did you see something they did not? Like the boy said, it’s not the spoon, it’s you. Reality is solely based on your perspective, so you literally shape everything you see. While that may not seem like a complete and total mind-fuck, I dare you to really think about what this means. If your reality is based on your “bending” then imagine how the issues and trials you experience in life are ultimately stemming from you.
Every day of your life the things you choose to see appear. If you decide that it’s a rainy day so things will be slow, boom, they will be. Take it even deeper, if you believe that a race or class of people are below you then you will find countless reasons why your beliefs are true. So racists and classists ultimately believe things so adamantly that their brains shape their reality to be true.
Think of your brain like a search engine, and your thoughts are what you’ll be searching for. Hitting enter will present you with thousands of possible pages to land on, but those pages can lead to truly great sites or incredibly shitty ones and the only thing that can decide which one is you. There is no spoon, and the sooner you can realize that the sooner you can take back ownership of your life. There’s a reason why for years people have been sharing cliche upon cliche about the power of your thoughts, and it’s not because they sound good. Thoughts may be one of the greatest sources of strength and addiction in the world because they can build you up or utterly tear you apart, and it’s up to you to decide which.
So, remember that your reality is shaped by your beliefs and your willingness to accept them. The moment you realize that there is no spoon is the moment you take control over your life.